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When it comes to online dating, people are over the stigma.
Or are they?
It seems like people are of multiple mindsets when it comes to putting themselves out there online. They know it’s basically normal now and they know lots of people who have done it. Yet they still feel a nagging sensation that they’re selling themselves. These two mindsets come into direct conflict when it comes time to put their picture up. It’s one thing to put a profile up, it’s another thing to place an image of themselves next to it.
Then they start to rationalize.
“I want to find someone who likes me for who I am inside, not for my looks. If all they’re looking for is a hotty, that’s just not for me. I want true compatibility and that starts with the brain, the heart, and the soul - not the measurements.”
I totally agree. The funny thing is that these are the very same people who do photos-only searches. Hmm, why is that? Well, I have a few theories about why photo profiles are essential to online dating in general.
1) INSTINCTS: While emotional attraction does figure prominently in the compatibility equation, physical compatibility plays a part, too. If one were to look at it in a linear fashion, physical compatibility is usually the first part of the chemistry experiment. Why? Nature dictates that we don’t put a lot of time into talking to prospective dates that might totally turn us off. These physical attributes that either attract or repel us can be more subtle than breast size or height. It can come down to the prominence of the brow, the curve of the shoulders, the bone structure, the eyebrows, the shape of the lips, etc. Bottom line: let the person who would be attracted to your type find you and contact you.
2) FEAR OF THE LET DOWN: Everyone has a standard when it comes to their ideal mate’s physical appearance. But let’s concede that their standard is *kinda* malleable. Imagine getting emotionally invested in someone, spending hours upon hours chatting with them, only to meet up with them and realize that it simply couldn’t work out. Yes, maybe you’ve just made a new friend. But it’s still a let down that most people would want to avoid. Plus, as a people, we’re just too busy for that.
3) PERSONALITY SHOWS IN THE FACE: As I’ve written here before, intuition is the sum total of all your experiences and knowledge applied in an instant. Looking into someone’s face, you can often apply your intuition to figuring out what they might be like. It’s not always 100% right, but it is a natural thing to do. Sometimes it can reveal things that wouldn’t come out verbally in their profile.
If you want to put a photo up but aren’t sure where to find one or how to upload it, visit the Mia Bella Profile Salon for help. If you’re ready to post a photo right now, click here.
Todd
Sr. Writer/Yahoo! Personals
Well now THAT's Refreshing...
A's are awesome... especially when they're now yours :)
So that's what I got after I pressed Submit on my first Psychology Exam (then pressed Yes to confirm)... but boy was I nervous for a minute there... after all, I didn't study so much as I wanted to... since this stuff was pretty fun to read and I just wanted to absorb all the details but was only limited to 24 hours in a day...
So after a week of about 300 pages and chapters 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6, I have a 90/100 to show on my grade screen :)
And now it's time to click the X in the corner and head to REM and NREM sleep...
Natural highs
Think about these one at a time before going on to the next one...
It does make you feel good, especially the thought at the end.
Natural highs:1. Being in love.
2. Laughing so hard your face hurts.
3. A hot shower.
4. No queues at the supermarket.
5. Taking a drive on a pretty road.
6. Hearing your favorite song on the radio.
7. Lying in bed listening to the rain outside.
8. Hot towels fresh out of the dryer.
9. Chocolate milkshake (or vanilla or strawberry)
10. A bubble bath.
11. Giggling.
12. A good conversation.
13. Finding a $20 note in your coat from last winter.
14. Running through sprinklers.
15. Laughing for absolutely no reason at all.
16. Having someone tell you that you're beautiful.
17. Accidentally overhearing someone say something nice about you.
18. Waking up and realizing you still have a few hours left to sleep.
19. Making new friends or spending time with old ones.
20. Having someone play with your hair.
21. Sweet dreams.
22. Making eye contact with a cute stranger.
23. Holding hands with someone you care about.
24. Running into an old friend and realizing that some things (good or bad) never change.
25. Watching the expression on someone's face as they open a much-desired present from you.
26. Getting out of bed every morning and being grateful for another beautiful day.
27. Knowing that somebody misses you.
28. Getting a hug from someone you care about deeply.
29. Knowing you've done the right thing, no matter what other people think.
Pass on these natural highs to at least 7 people and make a wish.
Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.
The Psychiatric Hotline
The Psychiatric Hotline
Hello. Welcome to the Psychiatric Hotline.
If you are obsessive-compulsive, please press 1 repeatedly.
If you are co-dependent, ask someone to press 2 for you.
If you have multiple personalities, please press 3, 4, 5, and 6.
If you are delusional, press 7 and your call will be transferred to the mother ship.
If you are paranoid-delusional, we know who you are and what you want. Please stay on the line until we can trace the call.
If you are schizophrenic, please listen carefully until the voices tell you which number to press.
If you are borderline, it doesn't matter which number you press-- no one will answer.
If you are manic-depressive, please press 7 as fast as you can for the next 24 hours, and then crash for the following 24 hours.
If you have bipolar affective disorder, please leave a message after the beep and before the beep and after the beep.
If you have low self-esteem, please hang up. All operators are too busy to talk to you.
If you are dyslexic, press 9696969696969696.
If you have ADD, wander away from the phone and start another task.
If you suffer from generalized anxiety disorder, please fidget with the pound key until a representative comes on the line.
If you suffer from social phobia, please hang up and go to a party.
If you have amnesia, press 8 and state your name, address, telephone, and mother's maiden name.
If you have post-traumatic stress disorder, s-l-o-w-l-y & c-a-r-e-f-u-l-l-y press 0 0 0.
If you have short-term memory loss, press 9.
If you have short-term memory loss, press 9.
If you have short-term memory loss, press 9.
If you have short-term memory loss, press 9.
Thank you for calling the Psychiatric Hotline.
Modified December 11, 2002
I can't handle it again...
I can't let go... but I wanna... but I feel so jealous and that jealousy is turning into hatred for both involved. My super-analytical mind says it's so obvious how to let go, and my super-emotional heart can't figure out how to let go, to the point that it's stopping the brain from thinking any other thoughts than how not to let go. Is this where my life is supposed to be going... spiraling downward tonight? My other friend is so fucking naive when it comes to issues like this, that I feel helpless when I'm around her, so I get frustrated at that. I don't know what to do. I keep calling around, but I get machines. I'd rather talk to a real person.
And... I should really get a fucking PhD. in Psychiatry to solve my own problems... cause it never seems that anybody has been able to truly pinpoint a true answer, since I'm so picky at arriving at a single, certain, and absolute truth... so help me God.
Too Funny...
Vatican's 10 Commandments for drivers
By NICOLE WINFIELD, Associated Press Writer 2 hours, 18 minutes ago
VATICAN CITY - The Vatican on Tuesday issued a set of "Ten Commandments" for drivers, telling motorists not to kill, not to drink and drive, and to help fellow travelers in case of accidents.
An unusual document from the Vatican's office for migrants and itinerant people also warned that cars can be "an occasion of sin" — particularly when they are used for dangerous passing or for prostitution.
It warned about the effects of road rage, saying driving can bring out "primitive" behavior in motorists, including "impoliteness, rude gestures, cursing, blasphemy, loss of sense of responsibility or deliberate infringement of the highway code."
It urged motorists to obey traffic regulations, drive with a moral sense, and to pray when behind the wheel.
Cardinal Renato Martino, who heads the office, told a news conference that the Vatican felt it necessary to address the pastoral needs of motorists because driving had become such a big part of contemporary life.
He noted that the Bible was full of people on the move, including Mary and Joseph, the parents of Jesus — and that his office is tasked with dealing with all "itinerant" people — including refugees, prostitutes, truck drivers and the homeless.
"We know that as a consequence of transgressions and negligence, 1.2 million people die each year on the roads," Martino said. "That's a sad reality, and at the same time, a great challenge for society and the church."
The document, "Guidelines for the Pastoral Care of the Road," extols the benefits of driving — family outings, getting the sick to the hospital, allowing people to see other cultures.
But it laments a host of ills associated with automobiles: drivers use their cars to show off; driving "provides an easy opportunity to dominate others" by speeding; drivers can kill themselves and others if they don't get their cars regular tuneups, if they drink, use drugs or fall asleep at the wheel.
It also pointed the finger at traffic problems particular to Rome: "Danger also derives from city cars, which are driven by youngsters and adults who do not have (full) driving licenses, and the reckless use of motorbikes and motorcycles."
It called for drivers to obey speed limits and to exercise a host of Christian virtues: charity to fellow drivers, prudence on the roads, hope of arriving safely and justice in the event of crashes.
And it suggested prayer might come in handy — making the sign of the cross before starting off and saying the rosary along the way. The rosary was particularly well suited to recitation by all in the car since its "rhythm and gentle repetition does not distract the driver's attention."
The document is intended for bishops conferences around the world, and as such offered recommendations for their pastoral workers, including setting up chapels along motorways and having "periodic celebration of liturgies" at major road hubs, truck stops and restaurants.
The "Drivers' Ten Commandments," as listed by the document, are:
1. You shall not kill.
2. The road shall be for you a means of communion between people and not of mortal harm.
3. Courtesy, uprightness and prudence will help you deal with unforeseen events.
4. Be charitable and help your neighbor in need, especially victims of accidents.
5. Cars shall not be for you an expression of power and domination, and an occasion of sin.
6. Charitably convince the young and not so young not to drive when they are not in a fitting condition to do so.
7. Support the families of accident victims.
8. Bring guilty motorists and their victims together, at the appropriate time, so that they can undergo the liberating experience of forgiveness.
9. On the road, protect the more vulnerable party.
10. Feel responsible toward others.
Note to Jesus
Thanks for calming my storm... again. I don't know how you do it. Just that, you do this very well and make last minute rush calls, so yeah, thanks! :)
Same time, your place tomorrow? I'll bring the textbooks.
Still praying for a fucking miracle
Seriously. Sometimes I don't think I'll find the one. My emotions run like a wild roller coaster, and now it's in the dumps. I don't know what's going to happen, but I just think I'll get disappointed again. And again.
Where's my revolver? Oh yeah. I don't have one...
Those who care about me, please intervene and save me from myself? :(
That includes you, Him-Who-We-Call-Jesus...
Sorry?
I haven't heard back from a certain someone that I've tried to reach. I don't know what I did that might have offended them? But I hope to be able to talk to them soon. God Willing and all...
El Ocho De Junio Mil Doscientos Siete
Today, I had a Papaya "Hawaiian Sunset" snow cone, and walked around Kirkwood, walking into craft shops, and such. And I got paid more than I thought I would... which is a testament to how hard I'm scraping up them hours as I can grab them, which means I can pay a bill off!! :) Believe me, I need it, and UMSL needs it too. Commerce Bank doesn't seem to mind, either.
The Twelfth
I simply cannot wait until the twelfth. Maybe I'm putting too much pressure on this, but a chance like this a la Butterfly Effect can only happen rarely. I'm so happy.....
Details? Why the fuss? Be patient, my readers. If I am blessed by the Almighty, I'll let you know.
Vaticanologist
Sometimes, I am amazed by the constant evolution and waywardness of our English Language. For example, this entry:
Vaticanologist
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Vaticanologist is a term coined in the mid-to-late twentieth century to describe journalists, academics and commentators whose area of expertise is in studying and understanding the manner by which the Holy See and the Roman Catholic Church operates. Particular emphasis is placed on the selection and appointment mechanisms by which its leadership elite emerges.
[edit] Origin and history
It owes its origins to the term Kremlinologist, which was used to describe media, academic and commentary experts who followed the function of the Communist Party of the Soviet Union in general and the functioning and selection of the leadership elite in particular.
Both the Kremlin and the Holy See operated in a great degree of secrecy and mystery[citation needed], hence the attention paid to 'experts' who were presumed to be able to read subtle nuances indicating who was on the 'way up', who was on the 'way down' and who were the 'ones to watch' within their leadership elites.
The most famous Vaticanologist was the author and commentator Peter Hebblethwaite, who wrote biographies of among others Pope John XXIII and Pope Paul VI, as well as a best-selling account of the events of 1978 in Year of Three Popes.
In 2005, with the first papal election in the age of the 24/7 news cycle and the World Wide Web, many Vaticanologists became prominent through their wide dissemination both on the television and via online publications. The weblog became a popular means for amateur Vatican watchers to share their insights and information.
When The Tides Turn Against You
I feel like shit today. Here's why:
1. As I wake up, my neighbors upstairs are having a fight, complete with adult-sized tantrums. My head hurts from last night's headache too.
2. My website www.jamb-inc.com will not process orders correctly due to a glitch with PGP, or it's open-source alternative, GPG. I've contacted my host about this. Then I contacted my client to let them know that I emailed my host for technical help, since he's the one who set up the servers and can help me the most.
3. I just learned my ex is in another relationship with a guy who I thought had another relationship. That shit just makes me jealous and really sad. I suppose she's already over me then. Back to square one. Fuckin A. And I thought that
opposites were supposed to attract?4. Tonight's not looking too good either... the truck shipment will take place in a thunderstorm, and I'll be the only one doing the majority of it for those couple of hours.
5. I just got paid $50. I can't realistically take on another job, since I will be taking two classes in the summer. I expect one of my courses to be about as difficult as one I took in the spring, but it's to fulfill the last of my mathematical requirement, so I have to take it. The "Easy" one, Psychology 1003, Karen told me that Psych can be a hard course to take, with papers and such. However a long time ago I took English, and I got a B+ in it, plus I have this blog which I seem to be doing pretty well in explaining my opinions in detail, so Opinion and Thesis Papers I have confidence in. I also rationaled to her that "The fruit tastes sweeter when having something salty like nuts or cashews to pair it with" meaning if I pair a hard course like Group Theory/Algebra (4350) with something in humanities like beginner's Psych (1003), it can make the Psych seem much easier, and help the stress when it comes time for the midterms on the Algebra. Besides, on an upbeat note, I DID pass both of my spring classes. Barely. So we'll see. I'm just trying to pair up something hard with something easy, to complement each other and finish out my Operation Home Stretch. And I need the easy courses to improve my GPA so I can graduate with a 2.0. Right now I'm at 1.7. My dream is to have a 3.2 Latin. Eventually.
Of course, I'm really good at hiding my feelings from the public (and my parents) because it's none of their business... which always winds up biting me up in the ass when the Stuff-Your-Emotions-In-A-Bottle thing bursts wide open. I try to tell my friends my problems, (while listening to their problems of course with an open heart and rational mind as best I can), but sometimes it's hard to reach them, and I feel that it's selfish to randomly call them up whenever I feel like it.
So, yeah. Now you know. Peace out.
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